Why is there no focusing orientation in sexual therapy?
Why do felt senses in the pelvic area appear so rarely in the natural flow of the focusing process?
What do we need to know as facilitators when our Focusing partner or client is in touch with a felt sense in the genital area or is preoccupied with sexual issues?
These questions, as well as others, led me to explore the crossing between Focusing and sexuality.

Since I am a sexual and curious person, I started focusing on my sexuality-related issues on my own. When I realized how well it was working, I then invited students and friends to experience a personal process with me; and that led me to two contradictory conclusions:
1. Focusing on sexual issues can feel simple and natural
2. The sexual field holds 'transparent' forces, and it is important to recognize and know how to work with it, before diving in.

Since then, over the past 15 years, I have mastered focusing and sexuality.
In the clinic.
Today, with many hours of experience in the clinic, learning the best ways to be present with embarrassment, shame, guilt and pain – on the way to contact a sexual FS, I know my instinct was right: focusing and sex is a match made in heaven.
Meanwhile, I never stopped focusing on my own sexual issues, and going to therapists and teachers who can assist my learning.

What I know by now is that excluding a whole part of the body from our attention, misses a vital step in the process, while including the genitals, pelvic FS or sexual issues makes the shift deeper, and the process more complete.

We can't underestimate the effect sexuality has on the whole body and it is time to be bold about it.